I’ve Spent 11 Years
In The Space Between
I spent more than a decade helping build and run a medical practice alongside my partner, Dr. Susan Lan. We wanted to create something different, medicine that felt personal, thoughtful and deeply human. Susan had been diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease at just 40 years old, and as the disease progressed, my role in the practice changed too. I began sitting in on nearly every patient appointment with her, helping with much of the conversation and documenting the visits so she could focus her energy on the patient and the medicine.
At first, I was there because she needed me.
But sitting in that chair gave me an education I never could have gotten anywhere else.
I had a front-row seat to thousands of conversations between doctors and patients. I watched both sides navigate frightening diagnoses, confusing test results, changing treatment plans and all the uncertainty that comes with trying to help someone feel better. I also began to notice something fascinating: what a doctor said and what a patient heard were not always the same thing. And what a patient said wasn’t always what the doctor understood. Patients sometimes struggled to put what they were experiencing into words. Doctors were often trying to make sense of a complicated story within the limits of a short appointment. And doctors are people, too. They have bad days, feel rushed, get tired and occasionally miss something important. Somewhere between the symptoms, the medical language and the pressure to cover everything, the most important parts of the conversation could easily get lost.
I found myself becoming the person in between, translating, explaining, reassuring, asking another question, noticing when someone looked confused even though they said they understood, and making sure the patient’s priorities stayed at the center of the conversation.
And somewhere along the way, I learned that some of the most powerful parts of healing have very little to do with medicine.
They’re compassion. Empathy. Understanding. Trust. Love. Feeling heard. Feeling like someone actually sees you, not just your diagnosis, your lab results or the fifteen minutes allotted for your appointment.
I learned that you can give two people the exact same information and they may need completely different things from you. One needs an explanation. Another needs reassurance. Someone else needs a plan. And sometimes a person simply needs someone willing to sit beside them for a minute and say, “Okay. Let’s figure this out.”
That’s what I mean when I talk about meeting people where they are.
It means taking the time to understand the whole person. We all come to our health with different histories, fears, resources, personalities and capacities. The best plan in the world doesn’t help much if it doesn’t work in someone’s actual life.
I came to believe that healing isn’t only about knowing what to do. It’s about having someone help you make sense of it, figure out how it fits into your life and support you as you follow through.
That’s the work I do now.
I help people make sense of their health and navigate the pieces that can feel overwhelming. We can meet before an appointment to talk through what’s going on, organize your thoughts and figure out the questions you want answered. If it would be helpful, I can sit in on the appointment with you as your advocate, listening, asking questions and helping make sure you leave understanding what was discussed.
And then we meet again.
Because walking out of the doctor’s office with a plan and actually implementing that plan in real life are two very different things.
That’s where we sort through the recommendations, decide what matters most, organize the next steps and figure out how to make the plan work in your actual life. And if you need ongoing support, I can stay with you, helping you navigate what changes, manage the moving pieces and providing the accountability that can make all the difference.
I’m not here to replace your doctor. I’m here for the space between the appointment and your actual life.
Because that’s often where the hardest, and most important, part begins.
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